Thursday, July 09, 2009

Guest Blogger Candace Havens: The All-Important First Kiss

I love it when the hero and heroine come together for that first kiss. In my books, I make the reader wait until an explosive moment, usually after a big fight. Then POW! Right I the kisser. I love those deep, sensual kisses.
When Alex and her main man, Jake, come together for the first time in DRAGONS PREFER BLONDES, it is one sizzling moment. I know, I wrote it, but every time I read it I get that quick tightening in my belly that comes from a really good kiss. The kind that makes the butterflies take flight in your stomach and makes your knees a little weak.
First kisses are always so exciting, even if they don’t always go as well as they do in fiction. I’ve been trying remember my first kiss, and I think it might have been in second grade with Michael Slocum. It must not have been terribly eventful, because I can’t remember much about it. The first kiss I do remember well was Paul Kibby teaching me how to French kiss in the seventh grade to the sounds of the Starland Vocal Band singing “Afternoon Delight.” They were sloppy wet kisses, but at the time I didn’t know any better. (I know my mom is really proud right now.)
I do have two favorite kisses from my past. The first was with Craig Price when I was in the ninth grade. We’d been circling each other for weeks one summer, just hanging out at the lake. Skiing, marshmallows by the campfire, the whole bit. Then one afternoon he kissed me, and POW! I don’t remember the specifics, but I do remember the weak knees and the realization that I’d never “really” been kissed before. It was awesome.
But not as awesome as the guy who kissed me in December of my Freshman year in college. We’d been friends my first few months of school there. I can honestly say we were best friends. One night I went on a date with a creepy guy, who will remain nameless, but he took me to this cool place. After I punched him in the nuts and made him take me home, I told my best friend all about it.
He was all set to punch the guy out, but I convinced him to take me back to the place. It was on this mesa in the middle of nowhere, but the stars were so close it felt like you could touch them. We were sitting on the hood of his car (which was a big deal because he really loved his car) and looking up at the midnight sky. All of the sudden he leaned over and kissed me. It was a good thing I was sitting down because there’s a good chance I would have fainted.
The kiss was that powerful. “I don’t think you need to go out with any other guys,” he told me as he pulled away. I honestly couldn’t speak. If you know me well, you know what a big deal that is. Then he kissed me again and I decided he was right.
I came home that Christmas and told my mom that I had met “the one” and his name was Steve. We’ve been married 25 years this past June.
So I want to hear about your first or favorite kiss. Who made your knees weak? Or how about the best movie kisses? I think my favorite most recently was the one between Edward and Bella when they are in her room in the “Twilight” movie. I can watch that scene again and again. So tell me yours!
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Blogger Jia Gayles said...

Hey Candace,

Thanks so much for writing such a great blog. Your hubby sounds like a winner! Let's see, my first kiss story...

I was a bit of a late bloomer, so I didn't get kissed until I was almost 18. I know, SO tragic (I was always a little dramatic). If memory serves correctly, it was in the entryway of a Shoney's and one of my best friends was standing nearby. She was say the least. So was I!



Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 10:07:00 AM EDT  
Blogger Candace said...

Jia, 18? Wow. So I'm thinking you were a good girl. I've heard of those but never actually met one. :-)

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 10:28:00 AM EDT  
Blogger Jia Gayles said...

ROFL! More wallflower than good girl ;-)

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 10:34:00 AM EDT  
Blogger LadyVampire2u said...

Congratultions on both your new release and your anniversary just past! Awesome. And I love your description of the episode with the creepy guy. LOL I have definitely been there and done that.
My first kiss was this little boy named Robbie who was with me during the babysitting my parents set up when I was about 6. My first real kiss was when I was in high school. A guy named Paul who was one of those cool kids that the girls swooned over. And my favorite movie kiss is probably in the movie Ever After when Drew Barrymore is kissed in front of the gypsys.

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 11:25:00 AM EDT  
Blogger Unknown said...

Oh Candance! I got scared! Our radio engineer is Michael Slocum! haha I don't think the same one! :)
Kair radio

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 11:28:00 AM EDT  
Blogger Candace said...

I forgot about that kiss in Ever After. That is great one!

And hello, kisses with hot guys, always a good thing! :-)

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 11:29:00 AM EDT  
Blogger Candace said...

Rachel, You crack me up! This Michael lived in Houston, so probably not. But wouldn't that make a great story!

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 11:42:00 AM EDT  
Blogger Estefanie said...

Wow! This is one of the best blogs I read in a long time. Totally sweet of you to share you memorable first kisses. Boy, its been a long time since I thought of my first kiss. It was down the block from house at the edge of a park under a huge oak tree. It just happened quickly. Didn't feel all weak in the knees till I got home. Couldn't stop smiling. Sure got me smiling right now, lol!



Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 2:29:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Unknown said...

Hi :)
Thanks for sharing that great blog post with us.
My best first kiss was with this redheaded girl I met at a charity dance. I can still vividly remember it. What's a guy to do? I married her.
Love From Canada

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 3:12:00 PM EDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Great blog. Such a sweet story. My favorite kiss from a movie is the one in Moonstruck after Cher cooks Nicholas Cage a steak and he knocks over the kitchen table.

As an aside, I had to make the first move on my boyfriend. He was just sitting next to me in the car after our first date and I was waiting and waiting for him to kiss me. I knew he wanted to, but I could see he wasn't sure how to start. (Me being all intimidating.) So I just took off my glasses, looked him in the eyes and said, "I'm going to kiss you now." We've been together 18 months so far. :)

Melissa J.

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 3:16:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Candace said...

Estefanie, thank you for those kind words. Loved your story!

RKCHarron: You made me LOL. That's so fun that you married her!

Melissa J. I love a woman who takes charge! I'm sure he was grateful!

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 3:29:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Catch My Words said...

My first kiss...

Several of us "Junior High" schoolers (dating myself) hid in a closet from I don't remember what. I couldn't stop laughing, so to keep me quiet, he gave me an electrifying kiss that zoomed to my toes. I never saw him again. Probably for the best.

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 4:40:00 PM EDT  
Blogger housemouse88 said...

My first important kiss happened at school. We ended up clashing teeth. Needless to say, it has been and will always be memorable. Have a great day.

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 5:06:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Candace said...

Joyce and Housemouse, I love both of those stories. Made me smile. :-)

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 5:20:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Margay Leah Justice said...

Candace, that kiss in Twilight is my favorite first kiss, also - maybe because it kind of reminds me of my own, in some ways. So sweet, so tentative, and then so passionate. What more could you want from a first kiss?

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 8:16:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Diane said...

Hi Candace
Your blurb sound so good!
First kiss: at a party with some friends, I wasn't expecting it at all since I'd known him forever; it was never repeated by the way

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 8:16:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Caffey said...

Hi Candace! I too love reading those first kisses and all those emotions, the hesitancy, the way towards the intensity of it...sigh...I remember my first one on a boy I had a crush on. I was about 15 too, and we stole that kiss when we were playing badminton and I was doing some terrible shots and we both went to get one that flew over the garage roof and we both ended up behind the garage and I got my first kiss! I was on a cloud nine for days! LOL

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 10:52:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Candace said...

Caffey! That's a wonderful story.
Thanks so much for sharing.

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 10:57:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Stacey Smith said...

Yes the kiss on twilight was good.My Firsts kiss that made me week in the knees was whit the boy next door I was 15 teen and he was 18 teen then a year lather he brakes my heart young love it

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 11:08:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Pamk said...

my first kiss was on a dare just a quick peck and run lol. We were about 13. congrats on the new release.

Thursday, July 9, 2009 at 11:49:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Donna said...

The kiss that comes to mind, is the kiss at the end of Sixteen Candles, where they sitting on the table with the birthday cake. I remember watching that, I was *giggles* 16 myself, holding my breath. My friends and I use to watch that scene over and over. That part on the VHS tape was probably the thinnest. LOL!

My first kiss was, um, behind a church when I was 12. It was a dare. Still remember thinking, I didn't see what the big deal about kissing was.

Candace, I'm new to your books and plan to check them out soon. Love the cover!

Friday, July 10, 2009 at 12:50:00 AM EDT  
Blogger donnas said...

Thanks for the great post. I was late to the party too and my first real kiss wasnt until I was 17. It was a guy I worked with and it was one night after work when we were hanging out leaving a restaurant.

And I love that scene in Twilight too.

Friday, July 10, 2009 at 1:26:00 AM EDT  
Blogger London Mabel said...

Fave movie kiss: Between River Phoenix and Lili Taylor in Dogfight.

I like it when the first kiss between two characters is near the end of the book/movie. I love being kept in suspense the whole time!

Friday, July 10, 2009 at 3:52:00 AM EDT  
Blogger Candace said...

Oh, Stacey, boys. Sigh.

Pam: I love that the first one was a dare. LOL.

Donnas: When you say Twilight, that scene is the first thing that comes in my head. One of the best in the film.

Miss Mabel, I'm not sure I've ever seen Dogfight. I'm going to check that out!

Friday, July 10, 2009 at 9:32:00 AM EDT  
Blogger Candace said...

Fantasy Dreamer, I just saw your post... Yes! 16 Candles. That was a good one. And I don't know it made me laugh that your first kiss was behind a church and that it was a dare! Perfect. :-)

Friday, July 10, 2009 at 9:34:00 AM EDT  
Blogger HockeyVampiress said...

Wow first kisses. I remember 2.... the first evva was Darren. We had been going out for a while. I was in grade 7 he in 6 different schools. How appropriate that first kiss was under the bridge in the middle of town. Yeah kinda dry and not too much anything else but nice. He is now an RCMP
The second of my firsts was with my first love. We talked forever and when we did go out it was to a Sadie Hawkins dance. They had the ball room at the gym converted into a weddin chapel of sorts. You could get married... you had to say something and jump a broom handle. The kiss(es) that followed were some of the hawtest I have ever had..... OK when years later he said he still loved me and wanted to marry me was another story but we can't get into those details here.... lol Oh the ones that you let get away......

Friday, July 10, 2009 at 10:37:00 AM EDT  
Blogger HockeyVampiress said...

Oh and fave kiss???? Hands down is Pretty in Pink.... Andy and Blain although I would give my first born to change places with my dream man Andrew it would be the kiss between Ducky and Iona.... LOL

Friday, July 10, 2009 at 10:43:00 AM EDT  
Blogger Candace said...

HockeyVamp, You need to tell us the rest of that story!

Friday, July 10, 2009 at 12:24:00 PM EDT  
Blogger chey said...

Congratultions on your new release!
First Kiss? All I remember is that we were walking, then we were kissing, then we were walking again.

Friday, July 10, 2009 at 1:25:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Twi-sessed said...

I totally agree, The Twilight kiss is HOT! I too could watch it over and over and- wait I have LOL.

And did you see the almost kiss Kristen & Rob had at the MTV movie awards back in May? Also very hot.

Sadly my first kiss will never match up to Bella's & Edward's :( It was 4th grade, school yard, entire class watching- needless to say it was bearly a peck and he ran off to brag at the monkey bars.

Guess that's why I write my own love stories- they're so much better! Thankfully your lovelife sounds up to par. Color me jealous.

Friday, July 10, 2009 at 2:06:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Catch My Words said...

I love the kiss between Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan at the end of You've Got Mail.

"Don't cry Shopgirl."

Friday, July 10, 2009 at 11:57:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Candace said...

Chey, Thank you. :-)

BCNEal, I didn't see that kiss at the MTV awards. Darn.

Joyce, that is one of the sweetest kisses for sure. I love those two together. :-)

Saturday, July 11, 2009 at 8:38:00 AM EDT  
Blogger Elie said...

Candace, now that you have finished your second book in this series, would you go back and change anything?

Monday, July 13, 2009 at 2:59:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Candace said...

elnice, I might put more romance in that first book. More scenes with Gilly and Arath, but other than that I wouldn't change a thing. :-)

Monday, July 13, 2009 at 7:51:00 PM EDT  
Blogger Kytaira said...

My favorite kiss was after my husband and I had been fighting for days. In the middle of the night I woke up. Don't know why but I was laying there in the dark. I honestly think my husband was half asleep. He rolled over sort of hugged me and gave me a quick kiss. Then he kept on snoring.

It was so special because I really don't think he even knew he did it. Sort of the most unconscious things are the most honest.

Sunday, July 19, 2009 at 12:44:00 AM EDT  

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